Why are you disappointed with people?
You may be wondering why people sometimes don’t meet your expectations.
It can be an employee not completing the task or a freelancer breaking deadlines.
Here is the lesson I learned from my first hire.
Last week I expirience a very unpleasant situation. For some reason guy with whom I work wasn’t getting the job done the way I wanted it to be.
Because of this, I had to stay late nights, finishing up his work to meet my clients’ deadlines.
This state of thing drove me crazy. I was so angry that I was ready to write hatred directly into slack (forcing notification :)).
Fortunately, I am not so stupid that I will afford to be reactive or take any severe decision in a state of anger.
For a couple of days, I wondered what could be the reason for this situation.
Maybe I just made a wrong hire?
Should I fire him and get back to doing everything by myself?
Maybe hiring isn’t for me?
I am lucky enough to notice this negative self-talk and shut it up. I reminded myself that the state of things is entirely the result of my actions or inaction.
I looked for the answer in me.
And it came up.
There is no way people can meet your expectations if they don’t know what those expectations are!
I didn’t set clear expectations!
Even though I was angry at him, the next day I either didn’t say anything to him, hoping it won’t repeat or made a vague notice not to hurt his feelings.
Once again, the reason was in me :)
At the time I am writing this, I haven’t yet talked with him about the expectations. But it looks like a solution.
This expirience is very valuable for me and emphasize the importance of communication.
The lessons I learned from this:
- State your expectations clearly.
- Don’t you happy about something? Chances are reason in your actions or inaction.
Hope this raw and honest story can help you with similar situations you face in your life : )